Saturday, September 24, 2011

Catching up and whatnot

Nothing new or exciting to report from the Hicksters. I'm sure y'all are just as tired of hearing it as I am saying it, but dang I'm tired! Getting to work at 6:45 most mornings and staying until 6:00 or 7:00 most every night, then running to Paul's soccer games twice a week and not getting home until after 9:00 most nights is getting the best of me. My quality time with Paul is limited to the weekends only and even at that point, most of our time is spent grading papers. Paul is so sweet and understanding and has NEVER complained about it one bit. I got me a good man!

Anywho, Tuesday night we went to see the movie Courageous. It doesn't come out until next weekend but Paul won tickets on the radio for the preview. It was the typical cheesy, low-budget acting that most of the Christian movies have been, but other than that it was phenomenal! I would recommend it to anybody, but especially for husbands and dads.

My cousin Ashley and my sweet godson Cole were in Greensboro this week visiting family. Thursday was Brent's (my other cousin) birthday so I went to my aunts house for some family time. I only have two first cousins so they are very special to me. The last time I'd seen Cole was in July and he has already changed and grown so much. He is quite the active little guy so there wasn't a lot of picture taking going on, especially since I only had my phone.


Such a sweet, sweet little booger


We are in the market for a new realtor. This will be the third realtor and we are now going on close to three years since we put Paul's house on the market. We loved our last realtors and have nothing bad to say about them, but it has been well over a year and it's just time to move on. We are meeting with a realtor on Tuesday and hope to have the house back on the market in the next week or two. It's been a long and frustrating process, but we aren't in NEED of another house. Period. Thanks to another trip to Kenya for helping me realize what's important. Don't get me wrong, we still don't want to raise a family in a townhouse, but we don't have a family yet so we are content with what we have. God knows what He's doing. And in case you're wondering, we've yet to meet our new neighbor. You know, the one that was supposed to buy our house and backed out at the last minute to buy one almost right next to us. I go by her house every day when I walk Sophie, hoping she'll come out so I can introduce myself to her but it hasn't happened yet. Perhaps that is God giving me more grace since I'm still just a tad bit bitter about that whole situation.

Off to grade some more math tests. Happy weekend, y'all!

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Kenya Recap...last 3 days

Monday was the first day of the youth conference. This was the first year I taught at the conference and I absolutely loved it! Daphne and I taught on abortion. It was not an easy topic at all. But abortion is a lot more common in Kenya than I ever knew it was, so it was a very necessary class.

We had 12 girls in our class, ranging from 11-22 years old.


Girls become sexually active in Kenya as early as 9 years old so unfortunately, this age group was exactly who we needed to reach. In the beginning of our class, we taught the girls about each stage of development of the baby while it is inside of the mother's womb. They have absolutely no idea about any of these things because they don't have access to the research and they don't get to have ultra sounds to see and hear their sweet babies. They were blown away at what they learned in this part, as I only imagined they would be because it is so incredibly fascinating to me too. We also taught them some of the abortion methods in America and some of the most common reasons why women have abortions. Then they taught us that the majority of abortions in Kenya are performed by boiling leaves from a nim tree and eating them. The leaves are toxic and they kill the baby when eaten. What the mother's don't know though, is that they are at great danger of killing themselves too and in more than half of the cases, they also die. The things these girls knew and told us were gut wrenching and heart breaking.

Monday evening Jimmy Safari brought the dresses to my mom and I that he had made for us. You'll be real surprised to know I cried my eyes out when I opened the dress. I will treasure this as long as I live!



We told him we'd wear the dresses on our last day in Kenya. I know you're holding your breath for those pictures ;)

We spent all of Tuesday teaching on what God says about abortion by reading and teaching on a ton of different Scripture. We had given each girl a Bible and they were always so excited to look up and highlight the Scripture. They are SO eager to learn and are genuinely grateful to be being taught.

Tuesday after the youth conference Francis took us to his house to meet his wife and children. One of my favorite things to do in our "off time" in Kenya is getting to visit the homes of the pastors. These people have become so close to me and it is so special to see where they live and meet their families. He has a very nice home and he even got electricity about a year ago. It is very rare to have electricity in Kenya. Francis is a very hard worker but he also has a good American friend who helps him and his family financially. That man's name is Jess and Francis named his first two children after him. His oldest child is Jessica and the second born is Jess. I think it is so sweet :) His youngest son is Joshua and his wife's name is Constance. They were all so precious.



His wife had made us a cake. Cakes in Kenya are not sweet at all but this one was very good.


After visiting with Francis' family, he and Samuel took Daphne and I to I LOVE PIZZA restaurant. Daph and Meredith went last year but this was the first time I'd been. It was delicious!! The food at the hotel is not great and it's almost the same thing every single night, so this pizza seemed like the best thing I'd ever eaten! I'd never been out past dark in Kenya because unless you are with a National, it can be unsafe. It was so much fun being out "late" and hanging out with two of my most favorite Kenyans on one of our last nights.




Wednesday was our last day teaching at the conference. We never asked any of the girls flat out if they'd had an abortion. We didn't think that was appropriate at all. But chances are at least one of them had. We weren't there to make them feel guilty or ashamed. So we spent the entire last day teaching on God's grace, mercy, redemption and restoration. Words could never describe how sweet our time was with those girls. We took pictures of them holding a card with their name on it so we could remember and pray for each one of them. One of the girls was not there the on the last day so another girl is holding her card. And you will see Rachel, our translator on the far right in the second picture. I have those pictures in my Bible along with the one of Thomas. I doubt I could ever go a day without thinking of them, but it sure is special to me to see their faces every day too.



Wednesday night was our kwaheri (goodbye) celebration at the hotel. All of the pastors come and it is just a sweet time of reflecting on our two weeks in Kenya and visiting with them one more time before leaving the next morning.

Mom and I in our dresses with Jimmy


I had asked Harrison if he could come and bring Thomas. As hard as I knew it would be so tell them bye, I just had to see them one more time. They came about 5:30 so we got to visit with them for a while before the kwaheri meeting started.



I gave Thomas a lion necklace that is exactly like my elephant necklace. I told him that lions were a sign of courage and that I knew he'd be brave for his upcoming surgery.


Earlier in our trip, we learned of all of the many people starving to death just 100 miles from where we were staying in Malindi. Some places haven't had rain in 2-5 YEARS! In Kenya people only eat what they can grow, so if there isn't any rain, there isn't food. The cows and goats were dying because there was no grass, and the corn and the rest of the crops have been dead for a long time. Babies are dying left and right and are being left on the side of the road. We heard stories about people walking miles (like they normally do) to get water but dying before they could get back to their family with the water because they didn't have enough strength. The stories go on and on and just get even more unbearable to hear. We were all broken over this and had been eager to help. Many of us donated money to the Red Cross for them to buy food and pay to distribute it to these people. Mom, Daphne and I gave what was left of the money we raised from the yard sale. During our kwaheri meeting, three men from the Kenya Red Cross came to the hotel to give us more information and thank us for how we'd been able to help financially. It was so cool to hear them speak and tell us more about how they would be reaching all of these starving people. Many of the pastors we'd been working with were planning on helping distribute the food over the next several weeks.

Everybody stayed for the celebration but had to leave before we ate dinner. When I had to say goodbye to Jimmy, Harrison and Thomas, it was the first time that I completely lost it while saying bye in Kenya. I did not want them to see me upset so I'd been preparing myself all day for this so I would keep it together. But I couldn't. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. Not knowing for sure if I will ever go back is something that is too hard for me to even accept. These people are my family now. I love them. Thomas is my little brother and Jimmy is just one of the most precious people to me in this whole world. Big surprise that I'm crying my eyes out right now as I type this. The rest of Wednesday evening was bitter sweet for me. I was so excited thinking about being home and seeing Paul and the rest of my family, but other than that no part of me was ready to leave Kenya.

The hotel always has a nice way of saying goodbye. They make everything a big deal for us and it makes us all feel so special. They made a big cake and got all of their staff to come out with drums and sang songs for us.



This is James. He is the wait staff manager and has been working there since I went the first time in 2008 and long before that.


This is Joan, one of the receptionist. I think she is so beautiful!!


And this is our entire group, minus some people that were there a week before us and left a week before us. Hate we didn't get a whole group picture.


This time in Kenya touched me and changed me even more than the two times before. I hope and pray that God gives me another opportunity to go, but even if He doesn't, I will be forever grateful and changed because of my time in Kenya. I wish everybody could go and experience it. America would certainly be a different place. I have had the opportunity to talk to Samuel, Harrison and Francis since we've been back. One of them has called every Saturday so far. Right now it is very cheap for them to call and all of their phones are international. Talking to them and hearing their sweet voices makes it somewhat easier to not be there.

We've gotten many e-mails since being back updating us on the food distribution from the Red Cross. One trip was made to distribute food since we left but long story short, the government has a hold on the situation and it has slowed things way down. Politics can get in the way even in Kenya. Things seem to be looking up as of right now and hopefully more people will begin receiving food this week. If you are able and would like to donate to the Kenya Red Cross, I can tell you how to get the money there-just let me know.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Longest. Week. Ever.

Wow! Surely I am not the only one who felt like this week would never end. Well I know I'm not the only teacher anyway. If I got paid by the hour, I'd be set this week. Exhausted would be an understatement. On top of the already rough week, the long hours and back to school germs got the best of me and I ended up with a sinus infection. As a teacher it's much harder to be out than it is just to be there and since I wasn't contagious I just kept on keeping on. But dang I am tired and am in desperate need of the weekend.

Looking forward to this weekend for several reasons. Like...

Sleeping past 5:30 of course!

The fall weather! I walked Sophie tonight and I was COLD! I love summer but have grown to also love fall. The beginning of it anyway. With fall comes many exciting things to me. Pumpkin flavored anything, football games, chicken stews, bonfires, hoodies, snuggling up and THE FAIR, just to name a few.

Paul and I will be spending our Friday date night watching The Lion King in 3D!!! We both love Disney movies but have become especially fond of them since going to Disney World in March. The Lion King has always been a favorite for both of us. We rarely go to the movies but this was a definite for a date night! My best friend growing up and I used to watch The Lion King all the time (hope you're reading this Traci :). Not gonna lie, we even had the soundtrack! I still know every word to every song and it will take all I have not to sing out loud in the movie theater.

Saturday I am finally getting the massage that Paul got me for my birthday. I've only had one massage in my life and it was 30 minutes and was about 12 years ago. Pretty pumped.

Happy almost-weekend, y'all!

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Kenya Recap, Take 5

Saturday and Sunday-August 6th and 7th

Saturday morning we went to Imani Orphanage. I visited this orphanage my first year in Kenya but this was my mom's first time going. The lady who runs the orphanage is incredibly sweet and selfless. She gladly works day and night to care for and love on these children.




All of the children were cleaning or doing some kind of work that morning. NONE of them complained and the toddlers were better little helpers than plenty of grown children I know. I admire so many things about the way children are raised in Kenya. I didn't see it as child labor abuse at all. It was what had to be done. They can't afford to hire someone to do it for them. It's what they do to survive. And they are more than happy to be doing it.



Speaking of admiring their children, this is a picture of ALL of the children-from one to fourteen sitting perfectly still for 30 minutes listening to a Bible story.


No books, no smart boards, no toys...just a voice, and they were so thankful to be being taught. I know Paul and I don't have children yet, so it's easier said than done, but we sure do hope to instill some of these Kenya ways into our children one day.

There were a few special needs children and of course I was immediately drawn to them.



This little boy had autism.


I don't know that people in Kenya even know what autism is, because it is a lot more rare than it is here. But they call special needs children "crazy". It sounds mean, I know, but they really don't mean anything by it. They just don't have access to the research we do so they simply aren't sure what exactly is wrong, in which case they don't know what to call it.

Here are the children singing a goodbye song to us.



After the orphanage we went to the wood carving factory. It was A-MAZ-ING!!! I'd always wondered if everything there was really hand made. This was proof. I could have watched them carve for hours. They are so incredibly talented. To know how hard they work on those carvings for what little money they make on them breaks my heart. At the factory they have a huge store with tons and tons of things for sale. We always buy all of our carvings and gifts from Jimmy Safari, but a lot of the things in this store were exactly like what we've bought from him.







Sunday Daphne, Chuck, Arnold and I went to church at Airport Baptist. Samuel's father started this church 20 years ago and they were having a HUGE anniversary celebration service. I was honored to get to be a part of it. All of the pastors from the Malindi Baptist Association were there and a lot of them gave a speech. About half way through the service I saw Harrison walk in. I didn't know he was coming so you can imagine my excitement! He had preached at Mbuyuni and caught a ride on a motor bike and headed on over. It was so special.

Two cakes this size fed well over 100 people. Cake is rare for them and they simply eat it to celebrate, not to overindulge in something that tastes good. Everybody literally got a taste and of course there wasn't one child who complained about not getting more.





Chuck and Samuel


Arnold with Samuel and his family


Harrison :)


Three very, very special Kenyans...Francis Katana, Jimmy Safari and Samuel Katana


This is Francis Katana singing Happy Birthday to Airport. Precious!



It was an incredible weekend in Kenya! Daphne and I taught at the youth conference our last three days. I will have one more post to recap those days and that will be a wrap!

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Kenya Video

Thanks to my mom for telling me that the first Kenya video did not work...it was accidentally set on private. It should work now. Somebody please comment and tell me if it's still not working :)

Labor Day Weekend

I knew it was going to be a good weekend when I got the news on Friday that my friend Laura was in labor. Baby Ealy decided to come on out about two weeks early but she was healthy and mama and daddy were happy.

Saturday I slept in (which for me these days is 8:00) and stayed in my PJs until almost 5:00. Can't think of the last Saturday I was able to do that. I did a little school work, updated my blog and spent about 5 hours working on a Kenya photo book on Shutterfly. But best of all on Saturday was when I got a call from Harrison and Thomas in Kenya. I hadn't talked to them since we left and it made me so happy to hear their voices. It seriously made my whole weekend!

Saturday night we cooked out at my brother's house with my family. To me, it doesn't get much better than food and family together. My nephews are growing up so fast so every moment I get with them is very special to me. Matthew is in the "too cool for pictures" stage of his life but here are a couple pictures of Bryan...



My good friend Meredith got engaged on Saturday. She has waited almost 30 years for this and I couldn't be happier for her and Chad!

After church on Sunday Paul and I went to lunch with my mom, Gram and Chuck. I haven't gotten to see Chuck much since we got back from Kenya. It does my heart so good getting together with people that have been to Kenya because we can talk about it all we want and we all "get it".

That evening Paul and I got to go meet sweet baby Evelyn. These pictures are taken from my phone and do not do her justice. She was absolutely perfect.

Mama and baby




I tried to be a little productive around the house on Monday but it was mostly another day of relaxing and hanging out with Paul. Soccer season doesn't allow much time for us so it was so nice getting to catch up with each other. God has sure blessed me with a good man!

The newly engaged couple hosted a Labor Day cookout.


We had the best time gettin all up in it, as Meredith would say.






Can't have Katelyn and Derek at a cookout without music :)


These two are up next for getting hitched!


Definitely the best Labor Day weekend I can remember! And tomorrow is already hump day :)